Be perfect with all the imperfections

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                I just finished reading the book “Love for the Imperfect Things” by Haemin Sunim. The author of this book is a gen Buddhist teacher and motivator. The first time I heard the name, I was in doubt about its genre. But this book is all about personal development through self-love, emotional stability, and most importantly loving one's own flaws. In this book, Haemin Sunim tells the paths that can be useful for day-to-day life. Every chapter has a new lesson, a new tip for you. The best feature of this book is that it is written in easy words and mostly in verses.
When I was reading this, it felt like this book is telling my story, my situational problems. But the difference is I didn’t have any solution when I was suffering. In this book, the author described how one can face and overcome every problem of his or her life. It won’t be any exaggeration if I say most people in this world who commit suicide or harm themselves fail to love themselves. Nowadays scenarios are worse as social media becomes the biggest platform for showing off one’s success at an extreme level. Sometimes this extreme level of show-off cause depression in others.

This book is a perfect guide if anyone wants to keep balance in all kinds of relations. It says that being too good is actually not good at all. So many of us try to be good in the eyes of others but this process snatches all our personal preferences or comfort from us. It often happens to us that when everyone is asking for coffee, we feel shy to ask for lemon tea because we are afraid to be judged. So many times, we sacrifice our comfort for making our opposite person happy. Is it possible to make other people happy without taking care of themselves? This is the point where we lag behind and end up being a sad pep.

I guess this is the first self-development book that advises keeping a good and warm relationship with parents. It describes why a family is important and how it impacts one’s mentality. There are some other relations as well that keep immense value in our life. Whenever we fall in love, we want to be perfect in our beloved person’s eyes. Because we think if he/she finds out that we have some flaws, perhaps we will be rejected. But according to Haemin Sumin, it’s not loving that craves only perfect people. Love is what makes one perfect with all the imperfections of the lover. The best line of the book is: “When you care for yourself first, the world will also find you worthy of care.”

This book gave me some outstanding understanding that will be helpful whenever I am in an emotional dilemma. From now on I will practice some tips that I got from this book. I humbly request all of you to just try reading it to know you better.
            

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